Why Do Women Still Use Relaxers? – A Retailer’s Perspective

Natural vs relaxed boxing match

We receive very interesting emails here at BHI and while most of them are your standard ‘help me make my hair better’ emails, every now and then we might get something strange enough that its worth sharing.

Below is an email sent to us from a relaxer company who shall remain nameless, take your time to read it, I have time, I’ll wait . . .

Why Do Women Still Use Relaxers?

Relaxers have been around since the early 60’s. With the look of straight hair, relaxers became a way of life for many women of color.  The introduction of relaxer kits, in the late 70’s, made it more convenient, cost-effective and safer for women to straighten their hair at home.  Despite the latest surge of natural hair trends, the true relaxer woman still stands her ground.  Be it her lifestyle, career or sheer vanity, she prefers her hair straight and relaxing her hair is the only solution to safe, lasting-straightness that can endure the office, the gym and downtime.  Relaxers remain the most effective way to achieve maximum permanent straightness while keeping the hair healthy, conditioned and manageable.

Why Do Women Still Relax?

  • Natural hair does not work for all women.

There are many women who have tried to go or thought about going natural.  In the end, some women have chosen not to make the transition.  Many reasons exist, for not making the transition, but a common one is that some women simply prefer their hair to be straight.  Are they wrong?  Absolutely not.

Oftentimes, the straightening process has been a part of women’s hair care regimen for many years.  Women, who relax their hair, are accustomed to its silky straight texture, bounce and movement.  They are very comfortable caring for their straight hair and enjoying a lifestyle that straight hair supports.

  • Styling versatility.

Not only do women with relaxed hair find it easier to exercise/work out, but they also feel that relaxed hair offers more styling versatility.  From ponytails to bone straight to wrap-and-go, relaxed hair offers the convenience and style some women desire.

  • Desire for healthy, strong hair.

Important factors to having healthy, strong hair with relaxers are to:  (1) choose the right product for your hair texture such as regular/super or lye/no-lye (2) follow application instructions (of the relaxer) exactly and (3) properly maintain the hair in between touch ups, such as getting ends trimmed and frequent deep conditioners.

For women who relax their hair, our Products offers the perfect solution!

  • the right amount of product, for new growth, at the right price,
  • a quality product that is safe to use at home, is gentle on the scalp & hair and provides superior strengthening with maximum conditioning,
  • unparalleled conditioning before, during and after the straightening process with its Triple Conditioning System,
  • ingredients, such as olive oil, that also “moisturizes” the hair

Done? My first thought was frankly that is the lamest most desparate attempt at justifying selling a product, I have ever seen. I think what got me going was when I read ‘enjoying a lifestyle that straight hair supports and ‘they also feel that relaxed hair offers more styling versatility’. Really!?? In comparison to what?

But then I read it one more time with less disdain in my mind and I realized albeit a weird way of articulating the benefits of a relaxer, they do make some great points. There are women out there who still choose to relax with great success proving that there can be some aesthetic benefit to relaxing your hair.

However adding any kind of credibility to relaxed hair should not be based on comparing it to natural hair; all that does is egg on an age old debate. Many have tried to put an end to the relaxed vs natural debate with no success, well it couldn’t hurt to try again. Here goes . . .

A relaxer is kind of like a Big Mac or Happy meal at McDonald’s weird I know, but hear me out. McDonald’s has been making burgers for years and they have been at the sharp end of the stick when it comes to obesity and other detrimental health issues due to the lack of nutrients in their food. Check any ‘America is way too Fat‘ documentary and you are bound to see a bright yellow arch with a clown next to it at some point. It is a fact that Big Macs make you fat, they aren’t good for you if they are your primary source of nutrition.

A relaxer like a fast food meal is not considered ‘good’ for your hair because the chemicals in the mixture alters the natural curl pattern of the hair permanently causing it to be straight. If you relax too often, or if you have even one bad relaxer experience you run the risk of causing severe damage to your hair leading to major hair loss much like the last burger that caused a heart attack.

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Hi I'm Petra Lomax , a staff writer and editor for BlackHairInformation.com . I am Jamaican born and raised and moved to the United States in my early 20's. I have a BA in Political Science and International relations as well as an MBA and a Masters In Project Management. I love travel, culture and anything that has to do with creative media and business.

  • DLB

    My last perm was Jun 2012, I BC in Dec 2012 with about 2 inches of new growth (from the highest point), & I got my hair flat iron in Mar 2013. After a couple of weeks, I washed my hair thinking that it would automatically curl right back up (my ends curled up quickly), but my hair stayed straight, & I had to continue to wash my hair just to get my curls back in. I still have straight/wavy hair in the front. I thought my hair would curl & it didn’t. So after this, I think flat iron will do the same job as a relaxer…now I don’t know if it makes a difference the hair texture you have. But I’m still learning how to take care of my hair. I first couldn’t tell if it was between a 3c/4a, but when my hair dries, it shrinks up very short with a cotton feel, & low sheen/shine to it, so I assumed it was in the type 4 category. But after the flat iron, I don’t know what happened, but it stretched out my hair, so the curls aren’t as tight as previously (looks like my hair was texturized). Its funny, products I initially used that I thought didn’t work on my hair is actually working better now, & the products I thought worked better on my hair, is actually taking the curls out. Again, I’m still learning. To say all of this using our natural hair is best because if I want a straight look I can always have it flat iron or roller set, if I want it curly I can wash it, & go back to curly.

    • http://www.blackhairinformation.com/ Alma

      Hmm, I don’t know, it sounds like heat damage so you will want to be very careful with heat to avoid having too much loss of curl when you flat iron. Make sure to use a good heat protectant and control the temp that you are straightening with. Take a look at this post to pick the best temperature to avoid heat damage >> http://www.blackhairinformation.com/hair-care-2/styling/what-is-the-best-heat-temperature-to-use-on-natural-and-relaxed-hair/

      • Leilini

        I agree with you. Hair doesn’t normally magically change texture. You have to do something to it to make it do that, which means breaking down the bonds, which also means damage.

      • DLB

        Thank you very much.

  • Leona

    Lol, not hating on any relaxed women but it sounds very desperate from whichever relaxer company that is. Instead of tempting me to relax my hair, they have convinced me why I should continue to embrace my natural curls! Again I’m not hating on those who like relaxed hair. Peace

  • Verona

    Can natural hair be a hassel? Yes. Can it be time consuming? Yes. Can you burn away your curls from too much heat? Yes. But the moajor thing that won’t happen with natural hair, that has repeatedly happened with relaxers and are happening more frequently, is loosing your hair after 1 wash after having the relaxer in. Time and time again, I have people calling me freaking out about their hair falling out.

    Guess what the questions I posed can apply to relaxed hair. Excluding the hair falling out because of chemicals, ALL the problems and issues a relaxed girl faces, can also apply to a natural, and vise versa. Some natural’s hair is too thick, relaxed, too thin. Also reverse it too.

    That’s my two cents.

    • Petra L

      I have to agree with you, natural women and relaxed women have alot in common. same issues and the same remedies but like you said, in the case of a relaxer, you can straight lose your hair. I lost the entire middle of mine so I can defin. relate!

  • Tiff Dizzle

    I went natural for two reasons I could not retain length past my shoulders and my mother started loosing her hair and her dermatologist believes it was because of the relaxers they could not find ANY health issues wrong with her for why she was loosing her beautiful hair. After that I said HELL NO. so no relaxer company can tell me the benefits of putting Sodium hydroxide and Phosphoric Acid in my hair. The last time I went into a beauty supply I saw relaxers for 1.99!!!! come on now MY shampoo cost more than that so that haves to tell you something.

    • http://www.blackhairinformation.com/ Alma


    • MsCurlyKat

      Ok, I thought that was something unique to my local beauty supply stores-I saw these little packets that look like a conditioner packet or a giant ketchup packet-it was relaxer, with the
      instructions printed on the packet, for 99 cents! And beside that, little neutralizer bottles for 99 cents as well. Something a little desperate about that in itself. Not knocking a relaxer, to each her own whether I agree or disagree, but things like that draw in people who then suffer the very worst effects of a relaxer, then haven’t got the means to fix it.

  • http://www.longing4length.com/ EbonyCPrincess

    Wow, I got this same email and as a relaxed woman had a completely different perspective. I applaud companies who continue to market products specifically for relaxed hair despite all the $ in “natural” products, something else I take issue in. Honestly at this point it is kind of a joke at how many so-called curl products are on the market and how much money natural women who never took care of their hair a day in their life are willing to plop down simply bc they BC’d. This is one of the oldest and first black owned hair care companies. Why hate on them for doing what they have always done?! At least they are staying true to their brand! Lastly as for your McDonald’s reference…even worse than relaxers is bleach but plenty of non-relaxed women lighten their hair without all the disdain and judgement. Overall I think your biased view on relaxers affected how you interpreted this press release.

    • me

      Totally agree!

      • http://www.blackhairinformation.com/ Alma

        In spite of the strong language I’m pretty sure that Emily can see why women choose to relax their hair and of course she supports the choice. She just took issue with the comparison to natural hair is all. Apples and pears, you can’t really compare them and the manufacturer shouldn’t have tried.

        For instance, putting aside the health issues involved, what if it was as commonplace to bleach ones skin. A manufacturer of skin bleaches shouldn’t then use “dark skin isn’t for everyone” as a valid reason to bleach. You see?

        I’ve always thought of relaxed hair as a hair styling choice, not a natural state of being.

    • Bobbie

      ECP, Kudos to You! It is super funny how some people go into a rant about the dangers of using relaxers due to potential hair breakage and subsequent hair loss…but you NEVER hear them express the dangers of bleaching their hair. Hhhhhmmmm, I wonder why???

  • juicyjudy

    Relaxed, straight hair still works for some of us. Over the years I have tried both! Straight, relaxed works best for me. In a business enviroment this works best. There is not a focus on my hair, and I am able to do my job and be taken seriously for what I do and not my hair style. I am not trying to look “wild” or “militant or “natural”! I feel more Professional also. That’s who I really am too!

    • DLB

      Your hair can still be straight being flat iron & not relaxed. Flat irons do last, I know that from personal experience. Just because somebody’s hair is natural doesn’t mean it is not professional…that is a bunch of bull. I have seen many professional women with their hair looking so-called “militant” or “wild”. YOU keep your SLAVE MASTER mentality, while the rest of us will enjoy what the MOST HIGH G*D Blessed us with.

      • http://www.blackhairinformation.com/ Alma

        I have natural hair but I certainly don’t consider it unprofessional. Actually my sister is a teacher and even though she has always been natural she used to wear wigs all the time. She never got so many compliments than when she started wearing her natural hair out, from both students and teachers. She looked perfectly professional in a braid out or a pony puff.

        It’s weird but a lot of the time we assume that our work colleagues think that the wigs/weaves we wear are our own hair but everyone knows that black hair grows kinky curly and most of them oddly seem to prefer it natural (when they are not busy not noticing or caring about your hair). Lol

        Honestly when you go natural your work colleagues will only ask you about it for a couple of minutes then its back to business as usual. I guess what I am saying is everyone has their own careers and problems to think about and how you wear your hair is not really that important to them.

        • http://twitter.com/devans00 devans00

          Very good response Alma. When I Big Chopped, my white co-workers were more enthusiastic and into it than I was at first.

          Then I noticed that around the office quite a few people who wouldn’t be considered Black have very curly hair. They don’t have drama about it, so why should I? True my hair is a few degrees more curly but not THAT much.

      • Bobbie

        Everyone has their preferences and outlooks on relaxed and natural hair and I have to say that flat ironing does not work for me for the simple fact that due to my personal summers, I sweat profusely and my scalp and hair is very much affected. Relaxers do not work for me for other reasons which I deem my own personal choice. On a personal note, I really do not concern myself with what someone else does with their hair. After all, it is their hair and not mine. I am not going to be bludgeoned over the head with the dangers of relaxing your hair. Nor am I going to listen to other’s reasons for not going natural and use them as my own. No one died and appointed me “The Hair Judge”.

    • llmyman

      It is so true, many may argue against it, but if you work in a predominantly white environment like me, an afro is sadly not an option. Going into a job interview I am always told – have your hair straight. It may be wrong but it’s the reality!!! Flat ironing often is not an option for everyone especially if you have short hair like me.

    • tamara

      whoa, whoa, whoa
      what do you mean wild? natural hair is wild; like the jungle? okay so growing the hair that comes out of my hair is animalistic or poitical, I dont get it. that is a house slave comment.

  • Robyn Kleinhans

    i read the press release and IMMEDIATELY knew which company sent it, and although I’m relaxed, I used their product once and shall not be using it again any time soon. The press release did sound a little desperate, even to me, but it’s not going to have me start transitioning any time soon. Whether one is relaxed or natural, it is still the individual choice of each and every woman of colour. In my opinion, this company needs to work on its marketing from a slightly different angle, such as true customer testimonials and wide spread surveys of customer satisfaction (with that I mean the opinions of THOUSANDS of women, not just a couple of hundred that got compensated whilst testing the product in restricted circumstances)

  • twa4now

    We ALL need to respect the choice and stop comparing relaxed hair vs natural hair. This was good information

  • MsHaiti

    im glad that perms and relaxers are starting to drift away. I feel black women are starting to embrace their naturals selves more and thats not a bad thing. Latinas,whites,indians are not trying to get afro hair, so why should we have to pay money to have hair like them?

  • DeeFresh

    I’m a stretcher. As a college student it’s more beneficial to my wallet to see my stylist for a relaxer every 8-10 or 10-12 weeks than to see her every 6-8. I had natural hair from day one (birth) until about 3 years ago ( I’m 26). So I did the natural two-step for a long time before I just had to have the Rihanna pixie and I knew it would require relaxer to do so. For me, I like relaxing. My stylist and I have worked out a routine where she doesn’t layer on the perm so I still have some texture and my hair is uber-thick so I still have the density I LOVE. In return I can pamper my new growth with deep conditioners, apple cider vinegar rinses, and leave-ins. I say that a woman’s hair is her choice. I am the only relaxed head in my family and a lot of my relatives have beautiful locs, but they respect that I choose to be relaxed and love me just the same. My natural girls and I get along no beef, and I bear no ill will to women of the natural sort :) I truly agree with the quote ” I’d rather have a natural mind and processed hair than natural hair and a processed mind.”

  • Angeliclybadluv

    This argument is lame… u have to simply do what works for. I’m a relaxer simply bc my hair is not naturally curly…. its naturally nappy… I have that will break combs thick unmanageable hair. If I could go natural n have those beautiful curly fro or that wet n wavy look without the time consuming hours in the bathroom or someones shop I would. But that is simply not the case. So I relax n practice hair management, by great products n stay away from excessive heating. I feel like…I’m not my hair, n what I choose to do with it or not do to it is my right. My hair is health thick and resilient… n I have been relaxing since 10, I’m 29 n hair neck length bc I love a short bob. As for the company they r trying to sell a product just like the others trying to push us to go natural. Thats the new crazy as you can tell with all the natural products that’s been popping up in the last year or so… My best friend is natural n the process she goes through to get her hair straight is ridiculous… My hat goes off to her and all the others bc the process is too time consuming and I refuse to be a slave to my hair just to say I’m “natural”

  • http://twitter.com/devans00 devans00

    I disagree with the part about “Relaxed hair can be healthy hair” This has never been the case for me.

    For over 35 years, I had back to back relaxers with hardly any gaps longer than the recommended time. I had endless problems including constant dandruff, split ends, weeping sores caused by the chemicals, breakage, straw feeling hair, etc. I haven’t even mentioned the struggled to find a consistent stylist who knew what they were doing, with minimal drama AND who could be counted on to be available whenever I needed a touch up.

    During the months since I Big Chopped the relaxed hair off, I’ve had none of these problems. I look forward to years of less dependence on the Beauty Salon.

    To me, there’s no contest whether chemically relaxed or natural hair is better for me in the long run. Self acceptance of my Type 4A/B hair took a while to get here but I don’t plan to ever go back to the creamy crack.

  • MyChoice

    I use a perm because it is the best for me. I really don’t need to give an explanation because it is my hair and my choice. We all have our choice as to how we want to do our hair and that is my choice. It is my opinion that we do not encourage each other as black women when we say natural is best or relaxed is best. I think we should support each other’s decision to do what is best for our own hair.

  • https://www.facebook.com/elizabeth.clayton.756 Elizabeth Clayton

    I also thought it sounded like a desperate attempt to keep their grasp on the customers they have, but to each his own. I myself have been without a relaxer for the past four years, and have found that my hair has grown more, and is so much healthier without one. Everyone’s experience is different though, but as for me I love making the decision to go natural.

  • https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=781490360 Andrea Anderson

    I used to relax my hair because I loved the smooth, straight look. Now I relax my hair but basically wash & wear, leaving it curly. ( my profile pic is from my straight days) I do this because straight hair for me is high maintainance w/never ending breakage. Relaxing it, then leaving it curly gives me a more natural look but is way easier to manage.

  • https://www.facebook.com/essence.wilcox1 Essence Wilcox

    I refusebto be 100% natural. .. now with that said I do now stretch out my perms I use to perm every month or the min i see new growth. …. now I stretch it out about 3 monthes …. thats the best I can do now my hair is armpit length

  • https://www.facebook.com/alma.garrett1 Alma Garrett

    I’ve been natural for 5 years , and wouldn’t go back to perm. MY hair is so healthy, strong & beautiful…. and I love it.#naturalbeauty

  • https://www.facebook.com/mieshel.osgood Mieshel Jett

    No relaxers for me, I love to be naturally me!

  • https://www.facebook.com/gloria.lee.353 Gloria Lee

    I love the creamy crack!!

  • https://www.facebook.com/urenacie Urenacie Tranquility

    Because we want to.

  • https://www.facebook.com/jasmine.wesley1 Jasmine Jackson

    Because it’s their business lol.

  • https://www.facebook.com/kourtney.boston Kourtney Boston

    I can’t see a reason to ever go back to relaxers. Knowing what it does to not only your hair, but your scalp, and the chemicals it releases into your body? No thanks. There are other less dangerous methods. HelI, even a texturizer is better than a full strength relaxer.

  • https://www.facebook.com/jamila.kelly.790 Jamila Kelly

    Because it’s my choice and my hair? O.o oh but I guess that’s just not a good enough answer.

  • https://www.facebook.com/candace.m.chambers Candace M. Chambers

    Watch Chris Rock’ s Good Hair documentary. I dont want anything on my skin that will eat through a coke can and has a connection with causing fibroids. Compare the thickness of your hair over time and there is a difference. The relaxers thin it out. #chemicals

  • https://www.facebook.com/tarachase.stephens Tara Chase Stephens

    Some women just refuse to move on.. Just like some women/men STILL wear Jherri curls…

  • https://www.facebook.com/carrie.l.howe Carrie Laura-Lee Howe

    To each there own… Women can be so hateful to one and other! Just do what makes you happy and works for u! God bless!

  • https://www.facebook.com/riff.spencer Riff Spencer

    My grandmother used to follow a regimen of wash, condition and hot comb every two weeks, grease my scalp every few days, and a relaxer every 6 months or so and my hair was ridiculously long and always growing out past my shoulders so it can work I think it’s about proper conditioning and not overdoing it with the chemicals

  • https://www.facebook.com/angellia.gladston Malakah Angellia Gladston

    Black Women still wear relaxer because they don’t believe they can be beautiful without it. MOST will deny this FACT (you can’t change what you don’t acknowledged) but if you dig REALLY deep you will find that black women who cannot accept their “natural self” have deep issues with self image.

    • https://www.facebook.com/wendy.jeanlouis.3 Wendy Jean-Louis

      Ok miss Cleo I guess you can speak for everyone. People do things for many reasons. One it could be for that reason you said, it could be cuz they want a change, much cheaper than being natural these days, it’s less time consuming depending on hair texture, and another some people’s hair respond different to perm. My hair was the longest with perm and didn’t break because it was taken care if and instead of these over counter creams I used oils just like I do natural in my hair. Now I am natural I have all problems and breakage imaginable

    • https://www.facebook.com/Alee1920 Vee Smith

      not this black woman. i love me and my relaxed hair cuz i can manage it better. has nothing to do wanting a look

    • https://www.facebook.com/extremelybold RaShondra Meggs Jessie

      I went natural twice. It wasn’t for me. I have no issues with self image. I know a lot of women, whom were natural ( looked beautiful with their natural hair) , went back to relaxing their hair because I was told it was time consuming and products were expensive. Every style is not for everyone. People choose what works for them.

    • Nikki

      Could you please provide a link to peer reviewed and accepted scientific research that substantiates your point….. if you aren’t making such a sweeping judgement from a statistical scientific perspective it’s just your opinion and not relevant to anyone’s experience but your own .

  • https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=199307617 Jeanne B.

    I don’t have deep self image issues and get relaxers. It’s a woman’s choice what SHE CHOOSES to do with her hair. I have been both relaxed and natural not becsuse I hated myself but because I wanted to try something different with my hair. Being natural was hard for me to maintain so I went back to relaxers. My mom used to relax my hair, condition it, hot comb you name it and I had hair down my back. Women shouldn’t be ridiculed because of something they choose to do with their hair. I like both relaxed and natural hair no need to be a natural or relaxed nazi people…

  • https://www.facebook.com/AlabamaBBWGoddess Ni-Ni Henderson

    Because we can. That’s the short answer.

    If done correctly, you don’t have to worry about having no edges, thinning hair, breakage, over processing, scalp burns, etc. The CHOICE to relax your hair as an ADULT is NOT about someone doubting your beauty, being brainwashed, not connected to their “roots”, and all of this other foolishness that are always being flung in relaxed people’s faces. I LOVE the things I do to my hair, and relaxing it just happens to be one of those things. Natural this and natural that. All the same complaints and so-called issues newly ‘natural’ people list off as to why they stopped relaxing are many of the same reasons countless naturals walk around looking the same way, except without the use of chemicals. I have seen so many people with exceptionally thin natural hair that’s in a fro and dreaded up and hanging on literally by a strand of hair, looking crazy!

    My point is if you don’t know how to care for your hair in whatever state you choose to wear it in, it can still be worse off in the end.

    And even if everyone was wearing their hair in it’s natural state, there would still be just as much judging going on as it is now.

    I knew this was a waste of my time before composing it, but hey…LET THE JUDGEMENT AND HATRED OF OTHERS CHOICES CONTINUE AS USUAL!!!


  • https://www.facebook.com/FashionMogul88 Ronnie Mapp

    I relax my hair because I’m a grown woman and its my decision to do whatever I want with MY hair. I have a weekly hair regimen that I stick to and my hair is healthy I’m two inches from reaching bra strap length (and I have all my edges!) I love every bit of my relaxed hair! I’m tired of the natural vs relaxed arguments/discussions …the only hair you need to worry about is yours and yours only! No need to ridicule people because their hair isnt like yours smh!!

  • https://www.facebook.com/santosha.braggs Santosha Braggs

    I relax my hair to ea its own I let it get real nappy though

  • https://www.facebook.com/steffelaine Stephanie Evans

    I have very long, thick relaxed hair (mid back/ past bra hooks). I love natural as well as permed. Now I choose not to go natural because it takes more work for me to maintain. Relaxed it takes 45 min for me to blow dry. Natural probably 1 1/2 hours. I can’t keep my arms above my head that long due to pain. So self twisting, braiding & such would be out! But I don’t knock our beautiful versatile hair. I love it all how ever You want to wear it. When people condemn others it says more about their self image than my own.

  • https://www.facebook.com/celeste.jackman.71 Celeste Jackman

    I think people use it because they want to.there is nothing wrong with a relaxer if thats what a woman wants and nothing wrong with keeping it natural if thats what she wants

  • https://www.facebook.com/celeste.jackman.71 Celeste Jackman

    Malakah Angellia Gladston that is your opinion but wrong.i may go back to a relaxer.been without for almost 6 years since last having one and i can be beautiful without but i like the maintenance of the relaxer.ans i dont have self esteem issues.sometimes its just not that deep

  • https://www.facebook.com/raquel.veronique Raquel Lovez Art’class

    Omg you guys are sooo hateful I mean really. If people want to get relaxers let em do it!!!!!! How is that any of you guys concern? I’m Natural now to but that doesn’t mean I’m gonna criticize the people who still want relaxers. Jesus Christ

  • https://www.facebook.com/tftaylor70 Tammie Faulkner Taylor

    The same reason we use deodorant, perfume, body spray, arch our eyebrows, trim/wax/shave our pubic hair, under arms and legs, use scented body wash, use makeup, over eat, don’t exercise enough, drinks sodas, use microwaves, & all of these things that aren’t “natural” & “are dangerous to our bodies”. ( the irony of a smoker, an over weight person or a person that has had any type of unprotected sex with ANYONE other than her husband, trynna tell someone about what’s unhealthy for their bodies is so ironic and hypocritical, its hilarious)
    I guess the short answer is “Because that’s what the hell they feel like doing”, but that wouldn’t be appropriate.
    *big cheesy smile*

  • https://www.facebook.com/tftaylor70 Tammie Faulkner Taylor

    IF “relaxed women hate themselves because they don’t feel they can be beautiful with one” , means that women wear lipstick and any other type of makeup for the same reason, right?
    Of course not. “That’s ‘different’ !

  • https://www.facebook.com/angellia.gladston Malakah Angellia Gladston

    Denial denial…… can’t change what you don’t acknowledged!

  • https://www.facebook.com/johnnaww Johnna Williams Nash

    Nothing wrong with it… I’m natural but as long as they take care of their hair…

  • https://www.facebook.com/marneekj Marneek Jones

    Rolling my eyes…here we go…Black women still wear relaxed because its called “freedom of choice”…Relaxing your hair is not a form of self hatred no more than being natural means u luv yourself..( and im natural) to each their own…

  • https://www.facebook.com/taylor.arianna.7 Taylor Arianna

    Because it is our choice. Its not a factor of self hate like some people just love to believe. It is a choice. I will love myself regardless of the texture of my hair. Heck sometimes I rod my hair to make a little fro. I just like versatility and a relaxer gives me that. I don’t knock people for being natural. We’re all beautiful. But the answer is simple. Because we want to.

  • https://www.facebook.com/alisha.murrell Alisha Detox Murrell


  • https://www.facebook.com/alisha.murrell Alisha Detox Murrell

    Going natural was time consuming and exspensive. Not everyone can achieve soft textured hair.

  • https://www.facebook.com/SpecialBee Becky Boo

    Ive been natural for so long only a week or so i put a relaxer on my curls not coz i hate my hair just coz i wanna change my style i tried flatiron but everytime a bit of water or sweat coz its hot outside my hair would change back to its natural curl. And im not gonna wear wigs or weaves to have a straight do & no i dont relax 24/7 just once and again… I say do what you want to your hair.

  • https://www.facebook.com/angellia.gladston Malakah Angellia Gladston

    RaShondra Meggs Jessie wearing your NATURAL HAIR in its NATURAL FORM is NOT A STYLE! Smfh

  • https://www.facebook.com/kalimahogany Kali Mahogany Price

    The answer to top all answers is because WE WANT TO….yet some judgmental sisters sport straight hair weaves in their profiles. There is no denial of who relaxed sisters are ad there is no way you become “blacker” by being natural. Can we please quit.

  • https://www.facebook.com/Eb0nyqu33n Ebony Mickell

    Damn! Hella relaxed women are touchy as hella about the fact that they have perm. LOL! Writing whole books on a status

  • https://www.facebook.com/AlabamaBBWGoddess Ni-Ni Henderson

    Some people should learn what a perm actually is before attempting to speak on it…

  • Cay James

    This is just another candy coated indictment of a woman’s choice to relax her hair….

    And just for the record….. as for your comment that,”Choosing to relax is a style choice while wearing your hair in its natural state ……..isn’t a choice a trend or a style.” Here’s the thing…. having a choice is the same thing as an option and the INSTANT that we had another choice, another mode of versatility, then keeping your hair natural DID become a choice.

    That is all.