Leave it off until he falls asleep
If you two are enjoying a movie in bed, just leave your bonnet off. When lovemaking is about to happen just leave your bonnet off for him to enjoy all of you.
Then just put it on after he falls asleep. Make sure you have your bonnet on the nightstand or under your pillow so you don’t forget to put it on. You don’t want to get into the habit of falling asleep without your bonnet on and end up saying to yourself that you messed up your progress trying to be all cute for your man, then blame any reprecussions of going sans bonnet on him.
If you must have something on your head, use different scarf aids
Purchase a cute scarf that you think your man will like. Try something different instead of the of the black or brown scarf you use to wrap your hair at night.
Now that it is springtime going in to the summer, get something with bright colors or flowers on it to make it look like an accessory instead of a dingy rag on your head.
How about that sexy turban? Turbans have become all the rave as accessories for cute outfits while going to work or just going out to the mall with your girls. Use your same turbans that you wear for the day and wear them to bed. They will protect your hair and they are just too cute not to have one. Your man will definitely appreciate the change.
Use a satin pillow case to change things up. Personally, I change to a satin pillowcase* as it’s getting warmer so I won’t be too hot at night or sweat my hair out trying to keep my hair protected.
If you are comfortable sleeping without your scarf or bonnet, trade it for a silk or satin pillow case. Not only will your hair be protected, but your man can see that you are trying to do some “give and take” for him. However, you could be trading your bonnet in for a satin pillowcase* just for you. At this point, he doesn’t know you are using this special pillowcase for your hair. But, let him think this is all for him.
Wear a sexy outfit with your cute sleeping aid
There’s nothing like a woman in some sexy lingerie to keep her man gazing at her. If your man is not bothered by your wearing your scarf to bed, but loves you in some sexy pieces for bed, then try that! He would definitely appreciate the effort and the very stimulating change .
Ladies, just remember that your hair is not going to fall out right when you get home or when your man wants to spend time with you.
Do something different for him every now and then. If need be, tell him why you sleep with your scarf and bonnet if he’s wondering about it. If he truly loves you, he will understand why you sleep with it, but give him room to tell you about his wants and needs too.
This may be your healthy hair journey, but you are also in a relationship. It really doesn’t have to be that hard, just take your bonnet off for him.
Phoenix McGee says
I won’t go to Walmart in it but I sleep in my head scarf. He likes seeing my hair pretty so he has to deal. I don’t think the average dude cares though lol
Kim Jones says
Yes
Rosy Moore says
No
Jamila Kelly says
No lol but I only wear it to bed anyway
Brittney M. Williams says
Nope and he’s okay with that
Chanèl Johnson says
yes
Yaya says
Of course! But he doesn’t care either way. I still do it for him
Yaya says
Of course! But he doesn’t care either way. I still do it for him
Tolindra Marie Collins says
If he know how you look without it. Why does it matter?
Renee Akperov says
Nope
Tomesha Champlin says
No
Tomesha Champlin says
When my now husband came to my home the 2nd time i wore my head wrap and robe, 11 years later with 3 years married he still doesn’t mind
Stacie Hart says
My husband hates its but its my Hair!!!
Latoya Aaliyah Small says
Heck no my husband and I been married 4 years and together almost 8. He always thought it was cute actually so no biggie in my house.
Kristen Nicole Thompson says
Nope he don’t care and I caught him wearing it one nite when I decided to put my scarf on instead!!!! Lol
MrsAshley Dunn says
Lol too funny mines wear one too
Endenezjia Graham says
No
Shantel Tweet Ivey says
Nope. If he wants it off, he needs to buy satin pillowcases
Lee Anna Easter-BerklinGaynor says
No x! !
Erra Johnson says
I don’t like em… But I’m pretty sure I look like Samuel L Jackson on Unbreakable when I wake up and don’t wear it. It would be the lesser of two evils.
Tajmah Jessika says
It’s never that serious & if it is then we not serious!
Greene Kenya says
If I had a man he will accept me with or without the bonnet and I love man? 🙂
Denise Mills says
NO I DONT, AND HE DOESN’T MIND,,,,BEING HE THE ONE PAYING FOR MY HAIRDO’S
Jessica Marie says
My boo looks at me crazy if I go to bed without it. Lol
Sheila Thornton says
That is the truth, he’s the wrong person. #liveyourlife
Sandra Haynie says
Not all the time I do on those special occasions hint hint
Shuray Merriweather says
Nope. That’s not what he’s there for.
Michelle Smith-valentine says
Nope take me as i am
MrsAshley Dunn says
Real tho
Jennifer Elena Johnson says
Ok. I’m just going to lay this out;
You want some ass? You better get used to the scarf.
Stop being so self conscious and just give up some pussy! That’s all they want in the end. Trying to make it too complicated! Like “Oh what will he think of my Bonnet? Let me wrap myself in cellophane! I know what he want! 24 Inch Long hair like the chick from Coming to America!” Yeah! That’s what I’ll do!” Ladies, we gotta get past this! Stop doing the most and love yourself. If he don’t love you, I promise you boo, there’s one out there who does!
Stephanie Walker says
How is this even an issue? Back in the day, women would go to bed with rollers in their hair and the husband wouldn’t say anything. But then again that was also back when men took women on actual dates….
Olivia C. Jenkins says
I just asked my BF he’s like “Olivia I don’t care about that s**t, you know I like your hair” and went back to watching his movie. Lol. I only wear it when I sleep or have rollers in my hair. So in other words. He don’t care
Latasha Cannon says
I don’t like the way I look in it so I take it off for relations. He couldn’t care less. My bonnet just doesn’t go with my lingerie. It kills my sexy.
Nl ManouBens Be says
Why would a man ask his wife to take it off ?
Saprila Mclean says
I need a satin pellow Case ASAP
Melissa Juanita says
Nope! He still wants some while i am wearing it. Lol I’m the one that doesn’t like to wear it around him.
Evie Antoine says
If he don’t like it, BYE!
Tiara Diaconescu says
Wrong question. Does the Husband need the bonnet off?! Hahaha smh
Hattie Berger says
I don’t wear one
Latoshia Gipson says
No!!!!! Mine don’t care
Nessa Rene'e says
No
Nicha Aragão says
Nope and he doesn’t mind it
Cheryl Harris says
Yes
Amilia Smith says
I dont
Amilia Smith says
I dont my hair aint donw
Alvinia Grant says
Hell no
Kelley Stewart says
Nah
Sherice Hodges says
No
Prudence Martin says
Lol
Lilian Rezi says
No no no and no! a girl got to do what a girl got to do….. if he dont know, he better get to know. The bonnet stays 🙂 lol
Laure Leondas says
Nope! Since day 1!!
Rebecca Belle says
They need to get a life , you got to deal with their missing teeth and hair lines but they can’t deal with a bonnet or scarf they can miss me with that my ex let me wear my scarf and bonnet , if I didn’t have it on he’d tell me to put it on so whoever has this problem reevaluate who you’re dating
Kayla Leary says
my husband and I have been together for 8 years. Back in college when we were first dating I did but not anymore lol. He doesn’t mind it
Avonte Pebbles Braden-Love says
Sometimes. .lol
Prudence Renee says
No and if he don’t like it he can go
Jacqueline Akanke Nichols says
These are fake people problems. A black man from a black home understands that I need my bonnet at night. Who are u women changing this for some dude?? Get a grip back people
Treasure John says
Nope my man doesn’t mind, he celebrates every part of me. He even wears one.
Mykles Kims says
He’ll naw
Lauren Fairley says
Nope! Because he doesn’t care…
Tina Marie Maddox says
It doesn’t matter I leave mine own have for years no complaints
Tiffany Nicole says
Smh
No
My man is not that petty
Carlotta Thomas says
No way!
Renee Belgrave-Joseph says
What is the problem wearing it at home. I do not wear it outside.
Rikayah Johnson says
This article is comedy. I am NOT going to be in a relationship with a man who makes a big deal about me wearing my scarf/bonnet inside the house
Debran Gregory says
I am sure the wifey will say no they don’t bec their husband is comfortable with seeing them in it yet the mistress will say yes the man should always see you looking great in and out of bed. The problem is mistress can sweat out their hair and the man will hand them mobet to get it done but wifey have to split a bill or do without just to get the money and time to do the hair. I am no a wife or a mistress and I require prior notice before anyone visit me. That’s me the woman that thinks people should wear heels to work and then change to flats at work.
Sandra Brooks says
If a man you are dating have a problem with you wearing a bonnet. He’s with the wrong gender.
Danelle Walker says
Rules for men for a happy woman:
#1 Thou shalt not remove bonnet.
#2 If bonnet removes itself during rest, quietly put it back as if it was never off.
#3 Ignore the bonnet as if it’s not there, or pretend it’s a fashionable hat.
#4 Respect the bonnet at all times.
#5 Bonnet=slayed hair in the morning=happy woman
Veronica Reed says
Love it!
Danelle Walker says
Me too! My son have more respect for the bonnets and scarfs than I do. He gets on his older sister who is 10 about not having her scarf on, and he’s 8.
Veronica Reed says
Interesting but I’m gonna wear my bonnet lol
Marie Winks says
No..lol
Chandra Houston says
I don’t have that problem