Hair is something that has always been on my radar. I always joke and say that if I didn’t choose a career path in science I would definitely be a hair stylist.
It goes without saying that I’ve also always been particular about my guys hair. It’s one of the things I’m most attracted to and has the power to make or break an overall appearance.
I’ve been dating my current guy, Brandon, for about 6 months. When we met he had long flowing locs that dropped all the way to his mid back. He always kept them neat and I love them! Well “loved”.
See recently I went out of the town for a week for a work conference and unfortunately our busy schedules didn’t allow us to see each other before I left. We talked every night while I was a way and when I returned made plans to meet for dinner because I we hadn’t seen each other in 2 weeks.
I beat him to the restaurant and got us a table and when he arrived I barely could contain the shock on my face. His locs that I loved so much were gone and he was sitting down like it was nothing.
My immediate response was “Wait! When did this happen?” and “Were you trying to surprise me?!” He said “Oh, I cut it like 2 weeks ago, no surprise, just wanted a change.” He thought it was perfectly normal to not tell me or even surprise me.
I guess that’s the difference between women and men but I think a major change like cutting off his locs could’ve at least been mentioned to me. He’s never even brought up the idea of wanting to ditch the locs.
Am I wrong to feel offended by the fact that he didn’t tell me? Let me know in the comments below.
laly says
It is his hair he can di whatever so do you. I don’t why you should be offended. It is not like he has a child and didn’t tel you.
Steen says
Nah, I don’t think you should feel offended. We do the same thing to our hair and our men ask us “what the…?!” So nope no need to feel offended.
MsCurlyKat says
Sad they were gone, maybe, but not offended. It’s his hair to do with as he wishes.
ALT says
I understand your surprise and you feeling offended like maybe you two are not as close as you thought, but to him it may not have been a big deal. I think you should talk to him and get your feelings in check. we all make hair decisions for ourselves but when you’re in a relationship a “Big Chop” is good to communicate with your partner.
Sandra Brooks says
No! You are petty and he needs to leave you. You are just looking for any reason to start an argument with him.
Cheryl Williams says
His hair, why should he care what you think?
Phoenix McGee says
I’d be a wee bit salty, but this isn’t something to hold a grudge over. Yeah, common courtesy could have dictated he say something, y’all are in a committed relationship, but if this turns into a whole big thing and not a “I’d have appreciated the heads up because
_______” you need a blunt.
Moana Coraliee says
No. It’s his body, his hair.
Amiliyah Coles says
His hair, his decision! Next!!!!
Tan Za says
No.
Vicki B. Watson says
The question doesn’t even make sense. He cut his locks and should she be mad he never told her? Well, when he cut his locks and she saw that the hair was gone… that was telling her. Some females find the dumbest stuff to be petty about. It’s that man’s hair and he can do as he pleases with it.
Tricia Foster says
Huh? He cut his locs and NEVER told you? So when you saw him you didn’t notice his locs were gone. You say he NEVER told you. Maybe you’re asking if you should be mad because he didn’t tell or ask you before he did it. Well, actually no you shouldn’t be mad. Why would you be mad?
Andrea Teresa says
His hair.
Evelyn Wise says
Ummm it’s his hair, why does he need to tell anyone.
Shelly EvEv Rochester says
Even if he was your husband, he wouldn’t need to tell you that he was gonna cut his locs!!! Smh.
Charissa Ann Smalls says
I agree with you but it’s just common courtesy in a “marriage”. I’m natural and have been for 7 years but I told my husband that I’m going to go back to a relaxer. He was looking shocked! LOL! Because when I cut all of my relaxed hair off to go natural and came out of the bathroom, he was not happy… LOL! But he didn’t say much because it’s my hair…
Miniko Brown says
But y he gotta tell you it’s his hair smh
Catrina Marks says
His hair, his choice, you’re not in control of his body!
Tiffany Marie Banks says
It’s his hair…ya’ll are just bf and gf anyway.
Briana Walden says
It’s his hair, he don’t owe you an explanation about that!!
Penny Canedy says
Are you his mother, wife? He should be able to do what he wants with his own hair. After all I assume this is a grown man, we are talking about?
Evelyn Lattimore says
Yes , Id be upset especially if he knew how much i loved his locs! But , it is his hair to do as he pleases! Id just want him to tell me first and not surprise me thats all!
Felicia Thomas says
No…straight stupid question. One this is your bf, not husband, and a grown ass man. He can do what he wants worth his hair. Two since when do men or women have to ask their spouse/bf/gf to cut their hair. Lord people anymore are super childish. Let’s grow up please!
Anonymous says
No that’s his hair