Admire with your eyes not your hands
If you find yourself in the compromising position of wanting to touch someone else’s hair please remember this rule. Yes, we know the technique is interesting, but if you are not myself, my mother, or my beautician, you get a strong side eye from me already.
I don’t know where your hands have been or when the last time you washed them was, but don’t underestimate or be offended when I offer you some hand sanitizer before your reach your paws in my direction.
Ask first
While we are on the note of cleanliness, please note that you will not make it this far unless you ask first. While many times I will say yes, I like to think of it as an invite-only. Perhaps a checkpoint if you will. This rule especially applies if you are a stranger.
I like my personal space. Love it actually! Please show respect to the strands that grow on my head, as well as to the ones I have added on for length.
While this encounter did not seem to play out as dramatically as the day it happened, I look back on it as if it were something from a movie.
Was I offended when she touched my hair? Quite honestly, not really. Mainly being because she was a person I knew and trusted. Had it been a stranger, it would have been a whole other story.
To me, yes it does make a difference on how well you know the person. I really don’t see how some people can be so bold. Certainly, not me! For some, this may not be a big deal.
For others hair fondling should be considered a felony (I am somewhere in between the two extremes). I beg these questions to you guys, Do you get upset when someone touches your hair? or Does it make a difference on whether you know them or not what your reaction will be on invading your personal space?
I am the only black person in the office where I work. I have add braids, wore a short wig. I finally went natural. They are always fascinated about my hair. They wear the same style for years or all there lives. The only change for them is to dye there gray.
This happens every…single…time -_-
I work with a Chinese gentleman who is always fascinated with my different hairstyles, but he always asks if he can touch first. Lol!
I always say no u can’t ..simple
I am a white woman with a black daughter (turns 4 next month) and I’m always amazed at how strangers feel like they can just touch her hair anytime. Without asking her or me. Ugh.
One of my former boss did this to me and I wanted to cuss her out and report her.She told me I needed a barrette then she touched my hair without asking and said oh it’s soft.Who the hell does that smh
Can hair be fondled?
Yes honey, I have to read it. I love the title.
I dont know maybe I’m weird but I don’t mind people touching my hair. Just don’t pull it I hate that. I don’t see what the big deal is and why others find it so offensive. I touch people’s hair because I’m a person who needs to feel things. Dirty hands lol really? Come on I’m sure you eat at restaurants and have seen people handle money with gloves on then go back to handling food you don’t scream then when it’s actually harmful to you. Then again were all different women and have different opinions that’s just mine.
I have a look that you wouldn’t even dare. You don’t even wash yo stankin hands please. Try it.
Happens to me whenever I wear a curly hair style.
Nuff times I get my hair done some type of way & people don’t even ask, they just put their hands in…a lady once snuck up behind me @ work & started feeling up my hair…
Get over it. It’s just hair. People touch hair all the time. I’ve had more black women looking at and touching mine than a little bit. If you don’t like it just tell them no they can’t touch it.
The manager at the apartment where I live has been the only person, that has wanted to touch my hair and that is because it is so curly. She is a african american and wanted to feel it for so reason. She said that it was so pretty and curly. I don’t see the reason why somebody wants to feel another person’s hair, but it doesn’t bother me, if they want to cop a feel.
I cannot stand for someone to touch my hair like that. It barely stays in a style as it is, it’s so fine and curly. When someone touches it , invariably it ends up some other way. Catch me when I am off work and ask first, I may indulge you. Otherwise stay back! Hair or not, it is an invasion of personal space, and brings potentially unwashed hands a little too close to the sensitive skin on my face. And let me not start on those who start and can’t seem to stop, like they are petting a kitten to sleep. ugh.