As the teacher above mentioned we are dealing with children and even though when they sit in a class room they are technically not the teachers own child, as a parent I would expect that any teacher would treat my baby with all the love and care you would your own children.
If my child is at school and falls in a muddy puddle and scuffs up his knee I would not expect to come to school and see him still in wet muddy clothes and bleeding everywhere.
Children are always a touchy subject because nobody wants to hear that they left a child in another’s care and something bad happens to them, or that they were touched inappropriately or yelled at.
In this case the teacher might have helped the mom, you never know anybody’s circumstance, and I really think it was a great gesture and if I were that child I would remember that time “Ms. So and so did my hair for me in class”.
Here is where the teacher lost me, posting my child’s picture on Facebook is totally off limits in my book. In this case we only see the back of the childs head so technically you cannot see her face which would have been worse so some might give her a pass on the Facebook aspect. As a matter of fact many parents do not mind sharing pictures of their children online, personally I am not one of those parents.
But let me be a little less biased – if I were the type of mom to put my child out there, I certainly wouldn’t put her out there at her worst.
Again, if the child’s parent was in a situation where they just had to get the child to school and couldn’t comb her hair, I do not think posting that on Facebook is warranted.
There needs to be some discretion with regards to what we share online, but because we are from a society that now shares every single little thing, lines get blurred and we lose our sense of discretion, especially when it is something that does not affect us directly.
I think what the teacher did was commendable, but sharing a child s photo on Facebook without the parent’s consent is an absolute no no for me.
Comment below, and let us know what you think about this whole thing. Would you mind if a teacher styled your daughter’s hair in class? How do you feel about the social media aspect of it all?
Dawn says
I support teachers that go above and beyond for the students in their classroom. Our teachers are underpaid and under appreciated while they have one of the most precious tasks on the face if this earth – educating our children.
That being said, I applaud the teacher for stepping up and fixing the little girl’s hair. What is not right is posting on social media. It appears that she wanted people to notice the ‘good’ that she did. It’s screaming ‘Look what I did!’ It taints the good deed.
MZBRWNEYEZ says
I agree with you Dawn, the teacher should not have posted the picture on social media and it does cancel out the good deed she has done. Matthew 6:2-4 (Message Version) states, “When you do something for someone else, don’t call attention to yourself. You’ve seen them in action, I’m sure–‘playactors’ I call them–treating prayer meeting and street corner alike as a stage, acting compassionate as long as someone is watching, playing to the crowds. They get applause, true, but that’s all they get. When you help someone out, don’t think about how it looks. Just do it–quietly and unobtrusively. That is the way your God, who conceived you in love, working behind the scenes, helps you out.
The teacher’s giving came in the form of her time and attention she spent on combing her student hair. At the end of the day, she could have spoken with the mother about what she did and how it lifted her daughter’s self-esteem. All of this could have been done in a loving way without the use of social media. As I see it, the teacher wanted praise for what good deed she had done and what better way to get it is with social media. The teacher may not have to get the mother’s approval because now when you register your children in school, there is a form that the parent’s sign to give or not give their permission to have their child picture taken for the use of the school newspaper, the regular newspaper, social media, etc. Parents need to be aware of the forms they are signing when they are registering their children in school. I would always mark no, when I filled out my child forms.
Tracy says
I totally agree. She did a good deed, let that be that! No need to snap a pic and post it online…without the parents consent! Too many people needing a pat on the back when they do what they should do already. She’ a teacher and a quasi-parent for a portion of the day. Kids are a mess most of the time, so helping them out just comes along with the territory! Good job, but stop fishing for compliments at this family’s expense.
I Know What You're Thinking says
It actually is not the teacher’s job to manage the child’s hair. It is the mother’s job. Though I certainly love what the teacher has done for the child’s hair, I don’t think she should have touched her hair without the consent of the parent. Regardless of her intentions, posting the pic on facebook was not the right route to take. That’s like giving $100.00 to a homeless person and then going to the papers with the story. Also, people today are too “sue happy” and anything could have gone wrong. #2, That teacher is there to teach and not be a substitute “mommy” and do the child’s hair. It is also appalling that I see where she said she washed some of the student’s clothes. Come on now….where is the accountability on the part of the parent? The parent is responsible for insuring that their child’s hair is combed, their bodies are clean as well as their clothes. True, there are many neglectful parents out there, but someone must bring their rightful duties as a parent to their attention. Be it the teacher or a school official such as principal or vice principal. Can you imagine if the teacher had almost a classroom full of children that were neglected by their parent (s) as far as hair combing, etc and took on the responsibility? There would be no time to do what she is paid to do which is teach.
Dee Louden says
I grew up in the baltimore school system and I was the 3rd child out of 4. Lost my parents at a young age. We’re I lived we were poor. I had low self esteem but I had a 4th grade teacher name Ms. Mclane I could never think her enough for giving me the love she gave me. She would make sure my hair was done clothes was clean and would even come get me every other weekend for church and so on…. In other words I support GREAT TEACHERS …. I support people who cares about others and some times children needs to know that people care about them when there in bad situations.
Thanks for reading
MsKat says
You know, while I don’t think I agree with posting the photos on social media, I am glad at least it was the back of the head and a generic shirt anyone might have been wearing. I don’t think the hairdo is the part the teacher was most excited about though, I think it was the non verbal child finally speaking that caused her to be excited enough to throw second thought to the wind and post about the whole thing. I’m kind of glad she posted, because I am so tired of all the negative images I see on social media. Although a bit of chastising is in order about posting the pictures, I hope they aren’t too hard on her.
Steen How says
I thought there was a backstory that the teacher asked the mother of she could do her hair and the mother purchased the hair products. Either way I thought it was nice of the teacher to do so. But she shouldn’t have posted it on social media. That should have just been confidential between her and the parent. But she did do a great job on her hair
Tishauna says
She did the deed with good intentions but she didn’t need to post the picture and especially not that caption. That’s embarrassing for the parent, but at the same rate the parent shouldn’t have sent their child to school with her hair the way it was.
My sister once for upset with a daycare teacher because she took out my nephews hair (which was in twists because my sister wanted to loc it). The teacher never touched his hair again however she makes snide remarks to my sister’s fiance about the child’s hair. Smh…some teacher don’t know their lane..but this teacher did a good job. It shows that some teachers do actually care about the well being of their children and don’t just see them as a mother pay check. And in the end her hair looked good and the child was happy. If the parent wasn’t happy, well they’ve learned their lesson not to send their child with unkempt hair. I just want to know where she got the supplies to do this lol.
MsLynk says
Now I have had a teacher fix my daughter hair after my child had dismantled the way I did it. I definitely appreciated it! I hope that the little girl’s parents did too. I don’t agree with sharing the pic but sharing the story focusing on her finally speaking would have been more acceptable.
Nicole says
There’s no excuse for sending your child with lent and not styled!!! That’s just bad parenting!! The teacher was wrong for posting the pics!! She could’ve just sent it to the parents!
Honeyamber1 says
I too applaud the teacher’s efforts. That being said, it would have been nice to get the parent’s permission before doing her hair at all, which would demonstrate respect and deference. Hair in general is a touchy subject as we all know, particularly our hair in a” Euro-centric” society. Perhaps the parent(s) wanted her hair to look like that, point is, we don’t know the back story. While I commend the teacher for styling the little girl’s hair, her motive to take a before and after picture and post it online is suspect and says more about her.
Olivia says
agreed
Pinkie Merren Rich says
I agee with you all the way with that!
Renee Shines says
From my understanding on another post this child has special needs & the mother gave the teacher permission because she had a hard time getting her to sit still long enough to do her hair sometimes.
Nita Pierre says
That was the case.. people judging her mother without getting the full story smh.. the mother gave her permission to comb her hair.. smh
Jamila Kelly says
wow. Thank you for clearing that up ! I almost jumped on the “hate on mom” band wagon too . I’m kinda ashamed for assuming like that :/
Ms-Tree Lyfe Justice Smyth says
Well y it this such a big deal…if the mom n the teacher agreed
Elle Daps says
Well thank you for clearing that up because it was not well depicted that way in the article
Renee Shines says
From my understanding on another post this child has special needs & the mother gave the teacher permission because she had a hard time getting her to sit still long enough to do her hair sometimes.
Nita Pierre says
That was the case.. people judging her mother without getting the full story smh.. the mother gave her permission to comb her hair.. smh
Ms-Tree Lyfe Justice Smyth says
Well y it this such a big deal…if the mom n the teacher agreed
Elle Daps says
Well thank you for clearing that up because it was not well depicted that way in the article
Darlene Waller says
the problem isn’t the story, it’s the way the media portrays it. The title here is a downright lie as we all know. I think I’ll unfollow this page due to these games. This page is supposed to be about hair info for women of color. Not the dang Enquirer! We need more unity, not this mess!
Renee Shines says
Me too @Darlene
Ashley Houston says
Did you read the comments? The story has nothing to do with neglectful parents nor anyone being mad at the teacher. The original page this came from is a Parents and teachers collaboration page. This little girl is a non-verbal special needs child who wouldnt sit down to let anyone touch her hair. The picture went viral and is significant because the little girl finally sat down long enough for her teacher to fix her hair and then afterwards said “pretty hair” (she’s non verbal). Both the teacher and the parents were elated by the situation.
Kyle Kawaii says
People just like drama, nuff said
Shalena Kennedy says
Ya know its a shame that people dont take the time to find out more. They always wanna just straight to race or neglect. Its sad.
gena says
I’m very grateful that you explained the real deal. Now that i know the whole story, its beautiful.
Jamila Kelly says
I almost hopped on the hate on mom band wagon :/ . Thanks for posting the truth !
Donna says
Thanks for pointing this out. Knowing the true context of a situation is best before speaking on it. Does the author of this article know this as well before speaking on it?
Benita El'Gran says
The way the post reads makes the mom look neglectful. “Full of knots & lent as it hadn’t been touched throughout break” smh.
Michelle Shields says
Well it was dad who had her prior to her being dropped off by mom and this photo is going to be used as part of the custody battle according to one of the teachers in the group that stated the photo was not supposed to be shared in the first place.
Ta Ca says
interesting
AmberLace says
Coming from a long line of educators who would go above and beyond for their students, I commend this teacher for taking the time to do this girls hair. It’s entirely possible that not only did this act of kindness make the little girl feel good, but it may have saved her the experience of being teased by other children. I have never sent my daughter to school with her hair undone but I do remember a time when I went to pick up my daughter from kindergarten and she had a big, old knot on her forehead. It happened in the school yard but my daughter never cried or told her teacher about it. With less than 20 kids in the class, the teacher never even noticed this child right in from of her face with a big, red knot on her head. That I found disturbing. I don’t know what the home situation is for this child but speaking for myself, I think that the teacher’s only wrong in this case was posting the picture Facebook. I don’t think she meant any harm and was genuinely touched by the response that something so small had on a child that was previously non-verbal. She should be commended for caring enough to do the child’s hair but informed that posting even a backshot of some one else’s child should have been done with parental consent. Who knows? She might have gotten consent before posting.
Kenya Patrice Lambert says
amen
Debbie Evans Smith says
my child the same way. s
Debbie Evans Smith says
not nice to pick on a child with disable smh,,,
Fentress Patrina says
I agree with the comments, but what bothers me more is under who’s definition is her hair “messed up” on the left photo. When will we stop judging others and accept their style choices for what they are…combed or not?
Michelle Dickerson says
My thoughts exactly!!
Ashley Houston says
The description by the teacher and parent was that it was knotted and uncombed.
Temisha Elliott says
It was matted and had knots throughout her hair. No one ever said in the original post that the left side was bad because it was in its natural state.
Ashley McInnis says
The article also said it had lint balls
Carmella McCoy says
It IS messed up if it has lint balls in it!!
Shana Smith says
It had cotton balls and fuss in it. Y’all better wake up. Natural does not mean unkept and dirty is acceptable.
Shana Smith says
Thank you Temisha Elliott. It’s not the fact that it is natural. The issue was that it was unkept.
Bianca says
I wouldnt mind at all for a teacher to do my childs hair and IF my childs hair is not up to par then that means it has been a rough morning for me aswell. The sharing on Facebook was a little uncalled for but other than that props to the teacher for knowing how to do her hair.
Anette Sanders says
Thanks #Ashley that was informative, now my question is why is this article set up and or worded in such a manner that will piss you off, is this article trying to be controversial or what cause my first thought was to go off until I read Ashley’s comment?
The Mane Captain says
I applaud the teacher for doing what she did. Other parents need to learn from her posting on social media. I work with children and i’ve come very close to fixing those children up.
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Icshia Leatherwood says
That’s exactly what this article was set up for. Drama. No one will think twice to read the article about the teacher who was given permission to comb a child’s hair. That’s boring lol. Sad but all too true.
anononymous says
Try me! 😛 I love reading inspirational and positive articles, more than drama! <3 JS This is definitely sensationalist click bait, but positivity isn't boring!
Cynthia Enem says
I have done that a lot! Fixing and making hair for girls with unkept hairs as a teacher way back! Wonder why ds mothers watch their kids go to school looking motherless!
Simone says
I dont think there was anything wrong with teacher doing the child’s hair. She lost me when she put a pic on facebook. Now, that wasn’t appropriate. We never. Know. Anyone’s circumstance, so I. Would say the teacher could write a “non judgemental” letter to the mother.
Cori Wilson says
Nothing was wrong with the before picture!
Ashley Houston says
From the description given by the parent and the teacher, her hair was knotted and uncombed. If that wasn’t the case there would be nothing wrong with it.
LCM says
I was an educator at one time and I too have had to fix more than 1 child’s hair. It broke my heart the way other children teased them. We all know how brutally honest children can be… It completely changed those little girls attitude and performance once they saw how beautiful their hair looked. Ladies, you know how good we feel once we get our hair hooked! I commend the teacher for that, but I do question her posting it on FB. We don’t know the home situation, but clearly that child’s hair didn’t get like that overnight and someone had to get that child dressed and make sure she got to school. I knew the home situation and the mother’s personally of the children’s hair that I did…they were just lazy and didn’t care. They knew it was me who did their daughter’s hair, I never received a thank you or a rebuke from them but they never sent those girls to school with their hair “tore up” again!
Ladee says
The teacher went over and above by doing the child’s hair. And she didn’t show the girl’s face so no one should have a problem with the FB post.
Debra Redman says
Teacher was totally wrong for posting the picture on social media. Her parent should retaliate, and file a complain against the BOE. If she’s so concern about her pupils, then she should have had a letter sent home to parents or schedule a conference. Praise doesn’t always result in gratification.
Kasie Alexandria says
Can y’all read the article before you make a post about the topic alone there is more to the story
Markisha Tingle says
Thank you
Shariekah Wooten says
I dont think what the teacher did was wrong at all. ..if u care enuff abt ur students, then why not help them out in their time of need. Whether it be academic or not. But I dont believe she should’ve put her pic on FB. It is okay to post about what you did withwords. But not by showing her picture whether it was the back of her head or not.
Doris says
I saw this in my FB feed, and I don’t see the problem. I’m old school (born in the 50’s) and teachers have been combing, feeding, buy things for kids for centuries. It was called back then “I Care”. the only difference is “social media” this generation tells everything in which I still don’t know why you do something, you have to tell the world. Good for that teacher who cared enough to combs that child’s hair! We have so many dysfunctional parenting now days we need people like her! THIS IS ALL GOOD
Zita Vigier says
God job on the teachers part, lovely job
Dee Willis Turner says
Caring teacher
Kirastin Johnson says
This story being circulated like it has been is sad. It shows how quick people are to judge situations that are none of their business in the first place. Shame on all of the people who didn’t even bother to read the full story before they gave their unwanted opinion.
Sarah Walters says
When I worked at a child care worker I had plenty of little girls that would only let me do their hair. Lol
Starlan Hoke says
I seen a little black boy with a white man the kid hair was matted need washing sad I told a lady what do for child hair she thank me for sharing about moisture for hair this a trip I am 62, for some reason when Perms was was all we know they act like natural hair is a movement well it hair movement was when we was the first blacks in schools learn to make products for yourself there a LOT people heads need a little something that kid head look nice but post it she wrong the after was ok
Toyia Newman-Neal says
As a teacher I’ve combed children’s hair before but only with parental permission, and the suggestion was made with severe caution and kindness. It’s wrong to blast a child and/or parent. While she did a good deed the comments along with her social media post made it seem cruel and judgemental.
Assata Knox says
The additional commentary wasn’t necessary from the teacher, NOR was posting the picture on social media. It became less about the child’s welfare and more about, “Look at me, I’m so wonderful for what I did for one of my students.” Good intentions, but delivery was skewed.
Pamela Smith says
Personally, the teacher did this little girl a favor. Kids can be mean and cruel and no one knows what would have happened to her out on the playground. I don’t feel that it was a dig at the parents at all. She just wanted the girl to look presentable. Now as for posting it on social media, it could have been for a lot of reasons. She might have done it just in case the parents tripped out and lashed out at her for what she did. It was an insurance policy so that she could have social media back up. Truthfully though, she shouldn’t have posted it but what’s done is done. I think the child is blessed to have a teacher that cared so much about her. It could have totally gone in the opposite direction.
Latasha Boone says
Guess what, I have a verbal special needs child and I’m gonna do her hair whether she likes it or not. Once my girl had a preschool teacher who gripped the hair in that kitchen and braided it while she was sleep. I couldn’t even be mad because I couldn’t grip it. I actually think that’s what started the growth back there. Nothing wrong with accepting a lil help.
Jaye McLeod says
I’d take my child there! Where’s the school
Charlene Cha LaBranche says
Well the title is misleading!! But ppl need to read before judging a situation
Jamie Carter-Bailey says
The subject is very misleading, it leads people to believe the the parents purposely neglected the child. Smh if anything it should’ve read. ” Non- verbal Special needs child speaks after allowing her teacher to do her hair .” Smh way to uplift people
Nefeteria Moore says
Exactly! Click bait at its finest
Jamie Carter-Bailey says
Truly.. don’t be desperate to insinuate lies we have enough of that on the news
Ms Shandra Dee says
Good job teacher
Tabatha says
I commend the teacher for what she did. I’m not a teacher, but as a child I did stuff like that for my peers that were not exactly considered important in their household. I think that she should have taken the picture for her own private photo collection. To me it comes off as, “Look at this poor child and look what I did for her, she was so happy that she spoke to me, just ME”! Really she should have just kept it to mental memory.
No offense to the parents but her hair was a mess and needed to be styled. If you don’t want people touching your child’s head then please do their hair.
Denise Mills says
She’s out of line , no one asked her to play in their child hair, imagine what the child went through ,while she combed the tangles out, NOT EXCEPTABLE…
NeNe WickedAmbitions says
Can someone tell me where to find the original article because what I read seemed as if the teacher was saying the child had lent balls in her hair and it looked as if it had not been touched the whole winter break…. it hurt her to her heart to see the child’s head like that and she refused to send her home looking the same way so her classroom became a salon….. no other link to the story
LeAja Brown Frencher says
The things we do from the heart doesn’t have to be commended by others…just look at the joy on the child’s face and their spoken words…that enough by itself…somebody told there is a special place in heaven for teachers for all the things we do for our students.
Tiffany Washington says
I wonder if that child was Blue Ivy would these comments be the same?
Denise Mills says
YOUR BEING PAID TO TEACH , NOT PLAY HAIR DRESSER, SO OTHER KIDS NOT BEING TAUGHT CAUSE YOU DOING A MAKEOVER, WHERE IS THAT ON YOUR JOB , DESCRIPTION,… A MIND IS A TERRIBLE THING TO WASTE, AND ME I EXPECT TEACHING NOT HAIR DOING,
Olivia says
agreed
Desiree Carter says
She should have never posted her good deed, but she did the right thing! Some parents don’t realize that a child’s behavior in public has a lot to do with what’s not happening in the home.
Rita Moore says
The teacher should ask a parent first for permission to comb hair. teacher you teach why are you combing hair.
Leonnette LadyChocolate Merancier says
And the parent should have been a parent as well
Aisha Moore says
Trifling!
Xae says
Do not let the left hand know what the right hand does.. What she did was a good thing, no doubt. But putting it on social media just to spark attention to yourself isn’t cool.
Chanette Staton says
Nice gesture but it didn’t need to be posted online. Seems like she wants accolades or something. .if your going to do it…thats fine but posting pictures is out of line and makes it seem like your intentions were not as positive as you would like to portray. Tremayne Khapre Hollins Alma Staton
Tremayne Khapre Hollins says
I agree, there was no need to post it online.
Thee Iva says
ok so I am a Hair stylist and my youngest goes to a great day care I sent her to school with her HAIR DONE and when I went to pick her up it was done differently and in a different style that took more time than the two afro puffs and two braids in the back and I did not complain!! I ACTUALLY WAS HAPPY!!! She looked super cute and I was something that Id never do. This teacher cares and the parent should be happy that she has LOVE just beyond the home!
Dorris Patrick says
I agree whole heartedly, Assata Knox, except for one thing. I don’t think the teachers intentions were from the heart,(good). I believe she had a plan from the beginning, and she carried it out. SAD!
Sabrina Harris says
Im glad she did the child’s hair. Look at the mess the mother sent that kid to school with. She should be ashamed of herself. Looks like lint is in at that. Now the teacher posting it she shouldn’t have. But if the the mother had done her hair. There wouldn’t have been a problem.
CurlyVirtue says
What the teacher did for the little girl, was awesome……and she did a great job and bringing out the beauty of the little girl’s natural hair. However, sharing the picture on facebook and anywhere is unprofessional and illegal. I understand as a certified teacher that our titles go far beyond teacher, and we become nurses, social workers, do laundry, and hair stylist. YEs, teachers are one of the most overworked, underpaid profession. I applaud the teacher for her great heart, but she went one step too far in posting the picture. She’s probably a young teacher and used to just posting without thinking, but this is a big no, no. I hope though that she just get a warning and it doesn’t go overboard with the parent or school trying to prove a point. For the million of teachers who go unpaid for all that they do, I pray they will show the teacher mercy.
Marilyn says
I am an educator and it did my heart good to see that the little girl felt pretty about her hairstyle. Caring teachers are all around us, not just in the classroom. I just wouldn’t post to social media, though.
Denise Mills says
YEA IT MAY OF BEEN GOOD FOR THAT KID, BUT HOW BOUT THE REST OF THE KIDS, THEY THERE TO LEARN ,NOT WATCH HER PLAYING HAIRDRESSER.
Brittny Roberts says
You acting like it took 5hrs to do. In most childcare settings it is more than one teacher to a room. So how do you know the kids weren’t being taught?
Denise Mills says
SHE AN’T GETTING PAID TO PLAY HAIRDRESSER, ITS NOT THE TIME NOR PLACE, I DONT CARE HOW LONG IT TOOK , ITS NOT APART OF HER JOB , I DO HAIR….CHILDREN HAIR….SCHOOL IS FOR LEARNING, WELL THATS WHAT MINE GO THERE FOR…SHE COULD HAVE ASKED THE PARENT COULD THE CHILD STAY AFTER ,SO SHE COULD DO THE CHILDS HAIR ON HER TIME….
Terri says
I hope they are getting a better education than you did not.
Ashley Williams says
Perhaps the people who wrote this article should have posted the original article. The link I’m clicking here doesn’t mention special needs, parental permission or a teacher parent website. It does show a the picture, what the teacher posted and what a few other people said……So based on what I read in the link, Im not really ready to give the teacher a standing ovation….
Crystal Jenkins says
So cute
Elle Daps says
fine she did the girls hair…that’s nice.. but she definitely shouldn’t have posted the picture.. Besides, good deeds don’t need to seek out glory
Lynda Wilder Williamson Burrell says
Looks better
ya'Kymba Fields says
Nothing wrong with a little help!
Nefeteria Moore says
The parents gave her permission to do the hair and permission to post.
And young children still have rest time. She might have done it then. I’m sure she wouldn’t try to do it when she had a class full of moving children that she is paid ti ‘ve interacting with and observing.
NubianPrize says
I’n a retired teacher from a big inner city school system with mostly black kids. We teachers used to keep peanut butter crackers & granola bars for kids who came to school without breakfast. I remember the first time a kid in my class came all tired & miserable due to no breakfast. I gave the child part of my lunch. After that I kept dried fruit,granola bars &,eat from the box type cereal. One school got a donated washer & dryer so they could wash kids’ clothes. One 5th grade teacher actually took one of her girls under her wing. She was very neglected because parents in jail, on crack or just neglectful. Don’t remember; there were so many like that. This teacher bought clothes for the girl, made sure she got good meals at school, bought groceries for the family, & gave the girl extra help with her academics.I have fixed minor hair issues like braids that came undone & supplied a few no rip elastic bands. I did send a detailed not home to a mother whose little daughter was crying in class because her newly done braids were so tight the skin was pulled up. It made my own head hurt just to lookas her. I told the mother all she needed to know about traction alopecia from tight braids. Later she sent a not back,thanking me & had the girl’s braids taken out. Teachers are constantly demonized & blamed for everything that goes wrong in school when a large part of the problem is neglectful parents : on drugs, never married to the kid’s biological mom or dad & neither is raising the kids, parents bed hopping & ignoring kids, pimping the kids out to drug dealers they owe money to ( YES ,IT HAPPENED AT MY SCHOOL & OTHERS) and anything else you can name. The other part of the problem are the “educational experts” made up of panels of people who’ve never taught school or been around kids other than their own & make all kinds of stupid decisions & policies that don’t benefit kids at all.
Fyl says
Ugh… Sheltered “armchair general” elites spinning utopian fantasies and moralizing still the norm for “educational theory”, as always
Meanwhile, fricking warzone business as usual on the ground below. Back of head picture on FB “unethical”, of course, since it’s a kid, and it might traumatize — who again?? Probably the very same chivalrous elite, who realize there’s plenty more where that came from, and far bigger and more explicit fish to fry as well.
I smell a DEFENSE MECHANISM – a cheap excuse to make sure that, when the next kid’s head has lesions or bone splinters or some other all-too-common sad sight, they. never ever have to accidentally see it, and thus admit issues exist en masse… Much easier to give electoral speeches about utterly eliminated bullying (past tense!), flourishing nourishing nurturing idyllic saccharine excellence throughout, and permeated with Organic Fair Trade G rated wholesome goodness (100% certified cuss-word, nipple, and gluten-free)
…WHAT A WORLD
Bonnie Mcdougald says
Good job teacher
sandra says
After reading most of the posts; the fact remains, the teacher combed the child’s hair. It is so easy for teachers to get into trouble trying to do a good deed. Therefore, the before and after photos serve as documentation, the child’s hair needed to be combed. Additionally, posting the photos to the social media site can support the date it happened… It’s a shame that we live in a time that acts of kindness have to be questioned and or inspected under a microscope. As an educator, I understand about having to CYB. Some people live in environments where everything done has underlying negative motives… Therefore, I’ve had to explain to my students why I look at them while they are talking to me… My goodness, some people would question Jesus’ love for them in spite of him dying on the cross. Some people see a half filled glass as half empty, while others see a half full glass. SMH
Yvonne Campbell Bouldin says
Very nice gesture
Yvonne Campbell Bouldin says
Very nice gesture
Yvonne Campbell Bouldin says
Very nice gesture
Yvonne Campbell Bouldin says
Very nice gesture
Yvonne Campbell Bouldin says
Very nice gesture
Kimberly Champion says
the pic im seeing doesnt even show a childs face so how can the parents sue for a pic? its not the teachers fault the parents would want to step forward and claim some jane doe back of the head shots. whose really looking for fame then???
Ayisha Benbow says
And this is wrong with our society today. I’m 35 yrs old which means I grew up when the village still raised a family. It’s a shame to see that feminism has made some women so strong that they forgot to be women. Or they were never taught how. I think it’s so sad that there are so many women that don’t know how to cook basic meals, set a table properly, do their children’s hair, or sew. Hell, chicks these days don’t even know what a slip is. Nowadays, no one wants you to mess with their kids, but if something happened to their kid, they would expect them to help out. Well, let me tell you something. It is okay for people to care about your children if it’s coming from a place of love. I would have done the same thing she did. I would have talked to the parents and explaim why I did what I did. And I would just deal with whatever consequences came after. A REAL woman would recognize their own flaws and weaknesses and be appreciative of someone who cared enough to handle something that I could not. As a parent myself to a teenage boy, I know nothing about manly things so I depend on the strong, caring men along the way to help him out with certain things as a man. Maybe her mother either didn’t care about her daughter’s appearance, or have a clue about how. Maybe some of you could use a little help from your village #EachOneTeachOne
Nubianprize says
This has nothing to do with feminism. It has to do with the decline of black culture. I am many years older than you & remember when black culture was strong & we had THE VILLAGE. None of the ugly mess you see now was going on. I went to segregated schools in the last few years of segregation. Parents raised their kids right & expected good behavior at home,church & school & we had to listen or pay consequences. Any neighbor could scold or punish ANY kid who misbehaved. There were no attacks on school staff by students or angry parents & there were no cops called to school because of out of control kids, There were mostly 2 parent households & if there was a family issue, some kids lived with other relatives. Most kids lived in stable homes. I recall the civil rights era when black parents emphasized education & told us to be ready to go into college when the civil rights laws were passed.,As for black women, they have always worked & taken care of their families. Both of my parents were educators as were several other family members. many of my close pals in the neighborhood had 2 working parents. It was necessary to maintain a good standard of living..HOWEVER ! Things started going south in the late 80s when the crack epidemic started. We teachers saw the destruction of black culture by what started happening in the schools. Drug dealer parents neglecting & abusing their kids,parents going to jail, kids with severe emotional problems, teen girls having babies & no one raising the babies right, drug gangs messing up neighborhoods with gun fights, rap music became ugly & nasty,hating women, calling them bitches & hoes & glorifying sex & violence. Kids became violent at school & since they had unstable homes with no discipline & love & were often shuttled from one home to another due to a parent going to jail or a “baby daddy ” or “baby mama” bailing & just leaving them on their own, they came to school full of anger & respected no one. Parents changed from the way they were when I grew up.They didn’t teach their kids the life skills & history of our people learned from the civil rights era. They often defend their rude ,sassy ,disrespectful kids against the teachers & staff no matter what they did. The young black men adopted hateful “gangsta” attitudes calling each other niggas & the young women became trashy ,wearing booty shorts,,bustiers, & trashy looking weaves. Some young mothers coming to pick up their kids from school looked like prostitutes in those outfits. Just a few days ago cops were called to a mostly black inner city school because of a giant brawl going on. And young men are killing each other in the streets every day. All that does is give white racist cops an excuse to shoot & kill them even if they’re unarmed because they “might” have a gun. There were problems with white cops when I was a kid & I remember our parents telling us kids to NEVER DISGRACE OUR RACE when out in public. Old school parents/adults like the ones I had growing up started putting their good kids in charter,Catholic, or private schools where they wouldn’t be called “acting white” & bullied because they chose to study & not follow the negative crowd. Today’s black folks need to get back to the village. Feminism had nothing to do with this mess. Crack came in & many black folks lost that VILLAGE culture that produced Dr King & the civil rights pioneers you’ll see in the movie Selma. I remember when those incidents actually happened. Every time I go to a class reunion this topic always comes up…how messed up black culture has become.
Fyl says
It’s bigger than that… And actually quite colourblind. Total collapse of “community” across the country, wherever & whoever. Everone’s a stranger.
Cops may or may not be racist or prejudiced towards anyone personally, but are 100% HOSTILE-MINDED tto everyone through and through — all territory is hostile territory to them.
C.ops refuse to involve themselves in signing off on a youth’s fixit ticket on an old car sighting “concerns about (their) safety” (same race, affluent neighbourhood), youth spends 5 hours trying to flag down a member of the (omnipresent!) police to no avail. Come evening, respectfully waits by the well- lit exit of a cop-infested coffee shop, politely greeting exiting cops w/ fixit ticket form in full view – three terrified policemen almost draw on him in response to “good evening officers, could you please assist me”…. All parties involved are whites. Town where not a single officer has ever been jumped in the line of duty. Never.
Suburban California kids with newly-minted licenses on their first ONE-CAR accident (loss of handling, impact vs. tree/divider/street sign/whatever, nothing violated no one injured) – cold sober, coherent, utterly non-threatening, local, and not even faintly minority-looking – get handcuffed in the back of a cop car while they wait for their tow truck. AS A MATTER OF PROCEDURE, for the officer’s peace of mind, they say (twisted much?! taxpayers pay THEM salary so that THEY maintain taxpayers’ pieace of mind, not vice versa – and if the neighbourhood doesn’t feel peaceful to a small crowd of armed police, that indicates said police hasn’t been doing their jobs well to keep it safe and have been, in effect, stealing from the public by drawing said salary under false pretenses!!!)
White guy with super mild speech impediment – no record, no probable cause, not even a single speeding ticket, just a minor stutter that only manifests in trying to make polite conversation in full manners mode to aggressive strangers – gets threatened, occassionally with guns drawn, and called “seemingly dangerous” and “weird sounding” by every cop that routinely pulls him over… Every time. And has STILL yet to get a single traffic violation cited.
…WHOLE COUNTRY’S BECOME ALIENATED FROM ITSELF. People’s comfort zones rarely extend past their driveways, and that too only in the warmest and most amicable households. Cops just show it more obviously, on account of the whole “gunman in hostile territory” approach to their everyday job. Race probably serves as a visual shortcut to spot strangers. And strangers today are people to be wary of, until proven and re-proven otherwise – an atmosphere of general distrust for everyone, everywhere, rather than any particular ideology of specifically targeted hate. Anyone who isn’t inner circle is first and foremost viewed as potential trouble. It just processes faster and manifests more completely when, even out of the corner of their eye, even at a distance, even without his glasses, Officer Friendly can, without a second glance, be 100% sure you are most certainly not among the inner circle of 3 or so guys on the planet he actually feels at ease with, and unlikely to be somewhat trustworthy on account of beimg somehow closely related to a member of that small circle of trust.
Strangers in America today are first and foremost potential sex offenders, muggers, child molesters, deranged junkies, terrorists, serial killers, telemarketers, identity thieves, scammers, Mormons/Scientologists/Raelians bearing booklets, or even, god forbid, registered Democrats/Republicans (opposite of one’s own favoured party… People don’t even scan for semi-familiar neighbourly faces, because our neighbours today are very much strangers too… And, in fact, rate high upon our list of dodgiest, most suspect strangers yet!
Jotonia Crowder McLean says
The big picture is the (child) . God waved his hand and the little girl spoke. Something she had never done 🙂
Darlene Waller says
quit stirring the pot BlackHairInformation.com!!!!!!!! The truth about this story has surfaced; the parents and teacher were in collaboration. Therefore, your title to this post is misleading…. actually it’s a downright LIE to get people to click on it and you and your administration should be shame. As a Black publication you should be focused on UNITY and not degradation or manipulation of your readers. STOP PLAYIN GAMES AND REPORT THE HAIR INFORMATION please. Now carry on.
Darlene Waller says
this is actually a good story, but the title makes folks mad. why yall playin games?
Janan Hackett says
she was wrong for exposing that child.idc it’s not s good deed if yu broadcast what you did
Nessa Rene'e says
I used to love when teachers did my daughter’s hair because I can’t braid.
Monica UdaBest Kinard says
I got a daycare and sometime. I get. Visitors. From DCFS if some kids hair is not done. I’M Doing it immediately
Monica UdaBest Kinard says
O n if i need pictures. For my business kids hair gotta be done.
Tara Anderson Taylor says
It’s awesome what the teacher did but she she should have NEVER posted pics on fb!
Leatrice Hudson says
Look better teacher has a good heart it’s hard to find caring teacher’s now a days.
Montaja Simmons says
I remember being in the first or second grade and my mother sent me to school with an undone hair do as punishment for not listening. I got to school with my hat on, but hid in the coat closet out of embarrassment. No-one came to my hair resuce and I still remember that day and the feelings I had about how I looked(evening being so young). It has had a lasting affect, I never go out the door with my hair a mess or my clothes etc for that matter. My mother was teaching me a lesson. Not sure what the case was for this little one. It is comforting to know someone cares! Now just how much that teacher really cared is unsure. True care and compassion is done with or without recognition. The deed was great-the actions after that great deed are unquestionable.
Derek Clement says
my peps don’t send their children to school with messed up hair.unless tings have changed.
Sharoya says
I think the teacher did a great job. AND I think it was smart that she posted it online. She protected the child’s identity by only using her back. I don’t feel that the teacher was bragging. I think she posted the picture because she was proud of her work, as anybody would be after tackling what looks to be a challenging head of full, thick hair that she said contained lint and knots. More to the point, I think it was smart to post the picture because she has visual proof of what the child looked like. She is not violating any rights or anything, because people that recognize the little girl from the back already know what her head looked like from the front. I know we are all ready to swoop in and protect baby girl, but the best part is that a previously nonverbal child felt pretty, and loved. I think the teacher did her student’s hair in the right spirit. In fact, I have personally witnessed a teacher do a child’s hair when a parent sent the child to school unkempt, and on picture day at that. WE should not rush in to judgment against a teacher in what is often a thankless and underpaid job.
Renee D. says
First of all, my child is a reflection of me. As a parent I would NEVER let my child leave the house without being properly groomed, no matter what the circumstances are! Secondly, I don’t feel the teacher was out of order for combing the little girls hair. The teacher did something she felt would benefit the child. It would be the same if a child had an accident at school. You would not expect the teacher to send the child home with dirty clothes on. You would expect the teacher to #1 call the parent to advise them of the situation and #2 take the necessary action to have the child cleaned up. As far as posting a picture of the child on the internet, This should have been authorized by the parent, if it was not already.