I am natural, as some of you may know. My reasons for going natural were not what some people think. I wasn’t looking to ‘fight the power’ or any such motivation. I simply wanted longer hair.
I staunchly believe that there isn’t one reason more noble than others for going natural. All reasons are valid and understandable. Whether you got tired of breakage, tired of having a relaxer schedule or tired of conforming to a white standard of beauty yada yada yada.
If and when you have kids, you will truly understand the reasoning behind why being natural yourself will serve you better in the long term. I am no hardcore natural in that I completely accept that relaxed hair is a choice rather than a result of hating yourself. But when you have kids, you soon realize that you cannot avoid learning how to take care of natural hair anyway!
If there’s one thing that I’m obnoxiously opinionated on is the idea of keeping kids natural until they are at least in their teens. I distinctly remember an episode of Tyra where a mother was proud of relaxing her 4 year old’s hair. Oh boy! Don’t get me started on exactly what I think of that situation.
I honestly believe that my daughter’s well being reflects on me as a parent and as such, so does her hair. With children, length is not usually as much of an motivation as health and that obviously comes from a good regimen.
So assuming that all parents who read this will have children with natural hair, here is a good regimen that you can use for your child. I will refer to the child as ‘her’ for the sake of ease but of course this can be used just as well for your little man.
Once the babyhood soft hair has fallen away, it may not be as easy to wash your little girl’s curls every other day. Her washing schedule can be adjusted to every two weeks if you feel it more prudent.
Very young children 0-5 years old tend not to like their hair being washed very often anyway. It’s less to do with pain than hating the feel of water in their eyes and ears! Not all children will mind however so I leave it up to the wisdom of the parent to decide what’s most convenient.